Short answer: no.
Sorry, I tricked you with a badly formed question, but such is how people so often ask it. Embed in that terrible question is the belief that they will never choose it for themselves and in truth few do. For the sake of all beings on Gaia, I sincerely hope that will not be the case much longer.
Though others will argue with me, I know narcissists can heal. I’ve watched it happen right before my eyes time and again. This work is my bread and butter.
Today I proudly introduce you to my private client. I work with only one man at a time in this way. He’s a self-described recovering narcissist. Well, he surely didn’t describe himself this way when we started but to say we’ve made a lot of progress is a hilarious understatement.
I could never redeem this or any man. No one can. Narcissists can’t be healed by some outside person. Healing never happens as the result of a force that’s imposed over on anyone.
He’s chosen to do the hard (and I do mean HARD) work. He’s in the process of redeeming himself and becoming a fully grown man now. It’s one of the bravest things I’ve ever witnessed or could imagine witnessing.
There are going to be some people that say it’s impossible for a narcissist to heal. I would never try to convince you, so please check for yourself. There’s a video coming up at the end.
Ladies, he’s got manners and style.
(Oh, my kingdom for a man with real manners, they are so rare.) He has empathic awareness and humility.
For example, while I was talking he realized he drifted away and hadn’t been listening intently to me, then caught himself, named it, and apologized without missing a beat.
I didn’t even have to ask for the apology.
He prays daily to the infinite divinity he now knows lies within him and everyone and everything. He knows this. He vows to act accordingly. He apologizes when he falls short.
Hellllls yes. I am SO proud.
That’s what women know a real man is.
Men, he was already “The Man,” but…
He was “that guy,” the sexy 20-something that walked onto a job as a bartender in the city’s hottest club despite having zero experience, then went onward to guard the Secretary of Defense of Germany, then dated Miss Uruguay.
Not to be crass, but he had an endless stream of pussy for the rest of his life if he wanted to continue in this way. He, fortunately, did not wish to continue in that way.
None of that status-seeking BS, after all, makes you happy in the way you think it will. You never catch the rabbit for long enough to make a meal. Even if you did, you’d find out that rabbit turns out to be just a wire form with some fake fur wrapped around it. There’s nothing inside that can possibly nourish you.
There is something beyond that which he’s now finding: himself and his true grounded power and confidence.
When he arrived to me, nearly everyone around him thought he was “The Man.” He was not then. He is now.
He arrived in December on my doorstep wrecked but down to do whatever it took to embark on the ride of his life. Here’s our six-month update.
Often people say “hey, Cris what do you do for a living?”
This.
It is my deepest honor to introduce you to… as I have named him… VerySexyHothead.
See for yourself. Please email me if you have questions. I’ll be opening space for month-long taster experiences for men soon. From that set, I will choose the next lucky guy to get a whole man transformation.
If you know someone in need of my very specialized skills, please point them in the direction of this bish and tell them to subscribe to her channel.
Life becomes a Hell Yes when we have ride-or-die friends.
Fortnightly we gather the humans who are a holy hell yes to finding our holy hell yeses (in a safe and consensual way, of course). We do a one-hour Relational Alchemy call where we engage in a kind of meditative practice where you speak from the heart of the present moment so that we can connect deeply and begin to build our tribe.
Come hang with us.
Every other Thursday
9am Pacific / noon Eastern US / 5pm London
Next one: July 6th
Free and open to all.