Finally… FINALLY, I have clarity on what’s up with narcissists – their motivations, hopes, loves, fears, secret doubts, and the subtle ways you might still be giving your life force away to them.
My father was a narcissist, and I was raised in a substantially narcissistic culture called the United States of America. I love them both, still, but I no longer give my power away to them.
The voiceover version of this essay covers MUCH more, as you can see by the 35-minute runtime.
If your life has been bent by narcissists and/or narcissistic systems of power and you would like that to cease and desist immediately, I know you’re gonna want more detail than what I’ve written here.
It cuts off abruptly when my doorbell rings, but I’ll be back with part 2 soon!
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I’ve been inside this topic for the entirety of my career as a psychedelic guide. My clients either were raised by narcissists and then married a narcissist or are themselves the narcissists.
And now without further ado let’s get started.
Narcissists are constantly ranking everything.
They especially rank the objects *and I do mean objects of their sexual desire. These are the men who think they are complimenting a woman when they refer to her not by her name, but by her number ranking.
This is my best remembrance of an actual conversation I overheard in a hostel in Venice Beach –
“I met this total 10 last night – Asian chick who was so petite. Man, you’ve never even known how feminine a girl can be. American girls are nothing compared to Japanese girls.”
What is this woman’s name, hobbies, and interests? I never seem to catch them saying that. She’s a minor character in his adventure, despite how much he obsesses over her.
In his mind, he thinks he practically worships women. After all, he idolizes and idealizes constantly. Well, let’s say this – he fantasizes about his ideal “girl” nearly constantly.
They always call women “girls.”
They think they are complimenting us there too. If he ranks you as a “girl” that means he would bang you. That’s a compliment.
They think to call a 50-year-old woman a “woman” is a dig. They are programmed to hate women and f#%k girls.
Narcissists think age is an insult. They think for them to say out loud with their mouth where others can hear it that a woman is 50 when indeed, she is 50, is an insult. To them, telling the truth is an insult. It’s a hell of a bind to be in.
Narcissists fear death
But, that’s because their society has programmed them to say yes to things they do no wish to say yes to by one convenient, always-available threat. – You will eventually die. I might even do something negligent that would make you “at risk” to die earlier. I just might…
Narcissists hate women and f#%k girls
Is it any surprise we have a major problem with underage girls being targeted for sex trafficking? Can you please point me to the grown-ass men who are funding this? There would be no such trade if the demand did not exist.
These men are narcissists. They are the absurd logical extension of a society that produces such large numbers of men that if even a tiny percent of them act out their sordid fantasies it scars the whole culture that created them.
This is the world we have lived in. I’m saying all of this so it will change from here forward.
They are the movie villains who are somehow handsome-r for having a slightly crooked nose and cut across their cheek.
We do not see the evidence of the war still in him, only his testosterone-fueled confidence. We hope that confidence is real. We hope he’s also competent, but far too often he’s not, but we don’t find out until it’s too late.
America and Americans made these heroes. Now it’s time to take them back.
The fantasy of the adult male American narcissist
Obviously, the pertinent and perky details of this will greatly vary from narcissist to narcissist. Their kinks will be different, but they will invariably be about something that violates the taboos of the society they exist in.
Narcissists are obsessed with their cultural norms. They see that the world is arranged according to a hierarchy, and those at the top are the ones who adhere to those norms. Whoever plays that game the best wins.
They say to themselves – “deal me in.”
They judge themselves smarter than anyone they know. With this arrogance, they fill fill the hot air balloon they float through life in.
Their lives do look incredible sometimes, amirite? Those are the dudes on jetskis surrounded by babes in bikinis. He bought six jetskis to make sure all the bouncing boobies wouldn’t have to wait and take turns.
I’m envious of them sometimes. They do look like they’re having fun, eh?
It’s a shallow expression of joy, though. It empties out as quickly as water in a sink without a stopper. They must go chasing the next refill constantly.
Really there ain’t no reason to be envious…
We are pausing there. Part 2 will be out sooner than later, but before I publish it I wanna get questions and observations from you. Please hit reply or drop a comment. If we get enough, I’ll do a special Q&A post.
Love from Oaxaca,
Cris