No more half-assing.
Have you noticed over the last few years that everyone and their dog became a coach?
If you want to be coddled and given justification to make excuses, there are plenty of people who will happily take your money. A lot of people got burned. Most of them weren’t living what they were teaching. Those people are either washing out of the industry or growing up and getting down to bizness.
My morning download from the bufo was that as a teacher I really only should be teaching a method if I'm whole-ass living it. Eeeeeeesh, that really puts some stickers in my hind end to get very, very serious about what the core of all this work is about. I hope you’ll be seeing more focus in my posts from here on out. I can’t, after all, live every possible method and topic whole-heartedly. One only has so much time in their week.
My teacher on feminine business principles, Julia Wells, is rad as hell because she lives her methods and tools. She knows what it's like to fall down in a ditch and therefore... what it takes to get out.
If she didn't, she would just be ENABLING the women in her programs. Instead, she's constantly helping us break the addiction to our BS. That's why so many women in her orbit are building grounded confidence and succeeding like never before, myself included.
Plenty of people have sold all kinds of things by making big promises. That’s what Ponzi schemes and marketing campaigns are made of.
We are so willing to pay for bad advice when it justifies our fears and excuses us from showing up to our lives.
Of course, we never think that’s our motivation, but it’s much easier to hide from facing your fear, shame, and buried anger. There are endless addictions capitalism will sell you that promise the reward without the hard part –
No, you can’t date/marry any woman you want.
No, you can’t make 10 million from nothing without getting uncomfortable, taking risks, making mistakes, etc.
No, getting fit and researching every supplement on the market won’t help you outrun your fear of death.
No, your *egoic* mind will NEVER figure out a real, actionable plan to help humanity.
No, you can never get good enough at the mechanical aspects of sex to excuse yourself from doing the hard work of connecting to a woman with your heart.
Yes, there are pickup artists and every other flavor of fraudulent expert who will tell people what they want to hear a thousand times a day so they can cash those checks.
Your addictions won’t protect you from your fears forever, either. There’s a point where they wear thin and the pain peeks through. Take heed if you’re running out of money, health, or unconditional love from people who genuinely appreciate you. You can either double down on the addictions or decide differently.
You will have to admit you are a small being, a drop of water in the ocean of consciousness. You do need help. We all need help and that comes from whole-ass, terrifying-as-fork connection with others.