This is an actual extract from a sex education textbook for girls, printed in the early 1960's in the UK. As far as we have come, we have so far to go!! – Monica Jayne
“When retiring to the bedroom, prepare yourself for bed as promptly as possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance, your tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom, as he would have to do for his train. But remember to look your best when going to bed. Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.
When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your husband it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately then so be it. In all things be led by your husband's wishes; do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy. Should your husband suggest Congress then agree humbly all the while being mindful that a man's satisfaction is more important than a woman's. When he reaches his moment of fulfillment a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had.
Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices be obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining silent. It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so adjust your clothing, freshen up, and apply your night-time face and hair care products. You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup of tea ready when he awakes.”
Women are carrying men's pain. Many of the Boomer generation are still adhering to what they were taught, as to do otherwise with unravel their world in a profound way. Who wants to get a divorce at the age of 78? For those ladies, I say a prayer of gratitude. I do not envy their sacrifice.
Younger women are still carrying men’s pain in more subtle ways that we’re only just waking up to.
I often speak to the gentlemen, but today I address this message primarily to the ladies. The following applies to men you’re in a romantic connection with, men at work, friends… really everywhere.
We may be better now than when this textbook was written, but most of us are still keeping silent when men make dumb decisions. The annoyed voice in our head says "he's acting like a child" but we bottle it up. Or we nag incessantly even though he blocks out our pleas as his father did with his wife.
We have three choices – bitch, bottle it up, or set a boundary.
What support do you need to trust yourself enough to be honest with yourself about what your boundaries really are? Will you bend if he gets angry with you? Will you break if he pouts?
Will you leave the relationship if he shames you on purpose or unconsiously by poking your most tender buttons? Will you leave if he refuses to process his own grief, sadness, and fear and it leaks all over you?
Will you stay because, well… there aren’t any better men out there so you better just get glad in the same boots you got mad in? I assure you this is not true. As long as you continue to trust men who are untrustworthy, you’re not likely to find the ones who are.
Yes, I am provoking you. I am willing to shake your bones. Too many of you are exhausted, unhealthy, chronically pissed, or worse – resigned into a cold state of permanent unhappiness, and I have had enough.
Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.
– Maya Angelou
Whatever support you need – find it. It’s there, you just have to ask for it and be willing to let it in.
P.S. Please forward this to a lady who needs a permission slip to set some boss-ass boundaries.
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